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365 Challenge : Idyllic

What does your ideal community look like? How is it organised and how is community life structured? What values does the community share?

Ideal community?

Personally I think the question doesn’t really ask what a ideal COMMUNITY would look like but what you’d love to dictate to other people to make THEM perfect for YOU.

What does it look like?

Well I’m pretty much in some pretty ideal communities already. Or have been. The 2005-2009 Bebo F1 community was wonderful as was the community we made for ourselves after that. The Wrestling community on Tumblr have their moments. I think the one I love the most at the moment is the anime debating community brought together by Twitter User IcebergLuffy. Its the most active I’ve been in a community since about 2010/2011 and is a wonderful community even if I only really contribute to it during the debate on a Saturday (it tends to be posted early Saturday morning but in the US it starts Friday evenings.)

So yeah for a introvert recluse a online community is perfect for me.

I really would like to be more into the communities in general again like I used to be. The problem is with my paranoia when you get burnt once you think it’ll happen 100 times over. The way I left the F1 community I was part of and actually Digital Spy and the Strictly Come Dancing / F1 community on there too has left me feeling pretty down on opening myself up again. Its sad because the communities I’m kind of part of just seem so nice but I kind of clam up the second I look like I’m making a step forward.

Its why I tried and kind of still trying so hard to join a community on WoW which just seems impossible for me.

How is it structured and organised?

It doesn’t matter. Even a online community it doesn’t matter. At the end of the day people need to be left to live their life the way they want to live it. It would suck if people were forced to do things one way for any reason.

Sure we have structure in our life that we have to follow. We HAVE to go school and HAVE to in some way get a job in our adult life and follow the rules of both but we are still individuals that have a choice over certain parts of our life.

If you start trying to structure it for a whole community then it stops being ideal because its just brainwashing people into acting in your perfect way which even if you brainwash people to believe its the “best” way just won’t fit into some peoples way of being.

So no structure or organisation.

Of course if you are talking about smaller things its nice to be online when other people are. Its why I loved the #F1Chat stuff when it was big and being online at the same time to talk about F1, Doctor Who, Strictly Come Dancing, World Cup matches and other things. Obviously if your gaming there needs to be organisation so you are online together at the right times.

The thing that makes me sad is not being online the same time as people to talk about F1. I think having to work Sunday’s started to kill my interest but by the time I stopped working Sunday’s the highlights meant I no longer got to always watch at the same time.

Pah.

What values do we share?

It depends what you mean by values.

If you mean the big ones you’d hope everyone you share this Earth with will live by good ones but I honestly think that people shouldn’t judge others because even if they on the outside seem to have terrible values you really need to talk to them before you truly make your mind up.

The sad thing is people are too busy to react strongly when they disagree that everyone becomes defensive and more often then not people lose the chance to actually get to know each other properly. There are lots of people that have really strange values or opinions that when you get to know them you learn that they aren’t actually as strong into their convictions as they first sounded or else are just nice with dodgy values.

Diary #3 : Little things….

With today being New Years Eve I truly hope everyone that suffers from anything horrible stays safe. Just because the world tells you something is normal doesn’t mean anything about you if you can’t do it. Don’t let anyone tell you that going out and having a kiss at midnight is the only way to celebrate the new year, whatever you do make sure you feel comfortable and safe. However you choose to, or are forced to, celebrate the new year is OK and will be perfectly special for you.

OK so first off I know I said I was going to write two more blogs with stories on how my confidence had been knocked recently. Thing is I wrote the first one at like 1am and went to bed, everything was so clear in my head and when I woke up I just couldn’t put anything else into words. I’m hoping the two stories will be up at some point but right now I just can’t put what I need to into words without sounding like a moany little bitch, or at least I feel like I sound like a moany little bitch and therefore don’t want to post it till I’ve found a way to write it without sounding that way.

Soooo I has written about something else.

The title of this blog magically kinda is special in itself. Its the theme of the post I was reading when the idea came to me as well as being about posts on places like Tumblr, Twitter and Facebook that strangely help.

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