Sorry that it didn’t come out on Monday but we’ve been just totally behind on everything the last two weeks so here is our weekly question just a few days late.
So I said on Twitter that we have failed the challenge but we’ll still continue even though its been failed twice.
Today I need to tell you about another blogger who influenced my online journey….
So boringly I’ll have to tell you about Anna!
Have I ever thought of being a woman and what differences would I think I’d experience if I became one for a day?
To be honest in the space of a day you aren’t going to have much of a difference. Maybe less hassle in general personally.
The question was perfectly suited for Anna who is non-binary and would love to have had a long rant about gender so as a gender fluid person I’ll give it a shot.
Two different questions within one. Are we talking about being a female biologically or as in being of the female gender. Its two different things that many people don’t realise and that is where so much confusion over the “other genders” comes from. Biologically its obvious there are two different sexes but it is only humans that have assigned names to them and along with the names then assigned “ways of living.”
That is where the middle ground comes in.
Biologically there would probably be a lot of things you’d notice even in a day being different. A biologically female body has obviously different parts to it then a male one. I doubt it would really be that much to get over the initial shock and in one day the aches and pains of having to get used to said body would never be a problem. Over a longer period of time obvious biologically female functions and the need to get used to the body and difference in build would come into play but not in a day.
If we’re talking about mentally actually BECOMING female as a gender then for me it wouldn’t, again, prove too much difficulty. I’m gender fluid so I’m neither one nor the other but both at the same time, kind of. If anything I think it would come more of a shock for someone like Anna who might be biologically female but mentally is neither.
Then again if this is a thought exercise meant to make males think about what females go through on a day to day business (and vice versa) then again a day isn’t enough to make you notice anything. Over a longer period I might find discrimination when I didn’t before but I doubt I’d notice too much.
Not sure why people get so flustered thinking about being the opposite sex. Other then a few differences biologically the only barriers between the sexes are ones we’ve put there. Just get over it already.
What does your ideal community look like? How is it organised and how is community life structured? What values does the community share?
Personally I think the question doesn’t really ask what a ideal COMMUNITY would look like but what you’d love to dictate to other people to make THEM perfect for YOU.
What does it look like?
Well I’m pretty much in some pretty ideal communities already. Or have been. The 2005-2009 Bebo F1 community was wonderful as was the community we made for ourselves after that. The Wrestling community on Tumblr have their moments. I think the one I love the most at the moment is the anime debating community brought together by Twitter User IcebergLuffy. Its the most active I’ve been in a community since about 2010/2011 and is a wonderful community even if I only really contribute to it during the debate on a Saturday (it tends to be posted early Saturday morning but in the US it starts Friday evenings.)
So yeah for a introvert recluse a online community is perfect for me.
I really would like to be more into the communities in general again like I used to be. The problem is with my paranoia when you get burnt once you think it’ll happen 100 times over. The way I left the F1 community I was part of and actually Digital Spy and the Strictly Come Dancing / F1 community on there too has left me feeling pretty down on opening myself up again. Its sad because the communities I’m kind of part of just seem so nice but I kind of clam up the second I look like I’m making a step forward.
Its why I tried and kind of still trying so hard to join a community on WoW which just seems impossible for me.
How is it structured and organised?
It doesn’t matter. Even a online community it doesn’t matter. At the end of the day people need to be left to live their life the way they want to live it. It would suck if people were forced to do things one way for any reason.
Sure we have structure in our life that we have to follow. We HAVE to go school and HAVE to in some way get a job in our adult life and follow the rules of both but we are still individuals that have a choice over certain parts of our life.
If you start trying to structure it for a whole community then it stops being ideal because its just brainwashing people into acting in your perfect way which even if you brainwash people to believe its the “best” way just won’t fit into some peoples way of being.
So no structure or organisation.
Of course if you are talking about smaller things its nice to be online when other people are. Its why I loved the #F1Chat stuff when it was big and being online at the same time to talk about F1, Doctor Who, Strictly Come Dancing, World Cup matches and other things. Obviously if your gaming there needs to be organisation so you are online together at the right times.
The thing that makes me sad is not being online the same time as people to talk about F1. I think having to work Sunday’s started to kill my interest but by the time I stopped working Sunday’s the highlights meant I no longer got to always watch at the same time.
What values do we share?
It depends what you mean by values.
If you mean the big ones you’d hope everyone you share this Earth with will live by good ones but I honestly think that people shouldn’t judge others because even if they on the outside seem to have terrible values you really need to talk to them before you truly make your mind up.
The sad thing is people are too busy to react strongly when they disagree that everyone becomes defensive and more often then not people lose the chance to actually get to know each other properly. There are lots of people that have really strange values or opinions that when you get to know them you learn that they aren’t actually as strong into their convictions as they first sounded or else are just nice with dodgy values.
Who’s the most important person in your life – and how would your day-to-day existence be different without them?
I don’t like people.
I don’t even like myself so I’m not sure how I’d decide on someone being the most important person in my life.
There is my family but I don’t think you can count them because… Well… They are family. Out of my family though it would only be my niece, mum and baby sister.
Friends? Well I have the guys on this blog and Fiona plus a bunch of guys I used to know real well because we were all F1 fans but I wouldn’t really say they were important enough to mark them out above everyone else or each other.
Hell I’d love to be big headed enough to say I am the most important person in my life but sometimes I wish I’d piss the hell off and leave me to enjoy life.
Thing is I always tend to be let down by people a lot. I got close to someone once and they stole money from me, tried to get close to someone recently and they just lied to me and spent most of the time being dramatic about the smallest of things. Another guy that I tried to befriend ended up telling me I should kill myself and not fight my depression and yet another one hates my guts because I dare not to find him attractive and want to sleep with him. When I left school none of my “friends” tried to keep in touch with me…
I guess I’m just super annoying.
The people who have kept in touch with me in my life don’t have to see me very often so have no need to want me dead.
You know what… This blog was meant to talk about the most important person in my life and all it has made me realise is that I must be the most unlikeable person in the world. Like honestly I can’t keep any kind of relationship at all. The more people let me down the more nervous I get talking to people and the more I try to keep things at arms length and then get depressed about it all at the same time.
Its why I hate people.
IF all these very unimportant people (or in other words everyone) pissed off and left my life would be easier I guess. I might grow to love myself because I wouldn’t feel inadequate because just about everyone and everything has more worth then myself. But as all the population of Earth ain’t going away any time soon I don’t think I can really test that theory!
OK its a bit of a dramatic sounding title but I couldn’t think of a better way to describe it.
After having a conversation with someone at work I finally realised one giant problem with the way people handle being told that someone they know is depressed/suicidal or suffers from life crippling anxiety.
Instead of asking you why, how its triggered or if there was something that you can pinpoint that started it (questions you might not have answers too but at least it shows they are aware its personal to you and want to understand it) they tend to, with the best intentions at heart, tell you why you shouldn’t be, that things will get better and that you don’t want to kill yourself….