So today something weird happened to me, full details on my personal blog (LINK) but basically I had a complete stranger berate me for no reason whilst in the City Centre this evening, all over a stupid face I pulled to my partner when someone walked in front of me taking a photo. It was like one of those sod law moments, my camera finally wanted to take this picture and he wandered in front of it just as it had snapped it, so as you do the fake “OMG why oh why does this happen” look came out.
Crime of the century I guess! Enough to have a stranger read me the riot act and send me home tearful on the next bus! My camera went straight in the drawer instead of being emptied and me gleefully playing with my photos because I don’t want to be reminded of it.
After I had my emotional five minutes (what can I say? I’m a weak and feeble emotional wreck at the best of times!) it got me wondering this:
Why do strangers bother to open their mouths and give you a piece of their mind?
Especially when it wasn’t something awful! I mean it could have been much worse, I could have been REALLY angry at the man and pushed him or something, or, like she did, have a go at him for walking in front of me. I did neither, I made a funny face and was about to get on with my evening. It wasn’t even like the man would have taken offence…. He was long gone by that time, long gone by the time I’d pulled the face!
Why is some random person in a big crowd worth “calling out” on something? What did she get from this confrontation? What was she planning on getting from it? Was she out to ruin someone’s night? Will this make her all tingly on the inside thinking she’d righted an injustice of the world? Is she planning on teaching her child that being rude to people in the street is acceptable and giving people the benefit of the doubt over something you perceive to be the most vilest of things is wrong? I just don’t get it!
At the end of the day she is lucky I reacted to it by shrinking into my shell and looking for the closest gap in the crowd to leave by so she didn’t see me cry! My sister and her friends would have had a totally different reaction, one her child would not have liked to see happen. One or two of my sisters male friends if I had been their girlfriend (thankfully I’m not) would have done something even worse to her. So why the hell when she doesn’t know how one person will react to her sense of entitlement in accusing strangers of being pathetic would she do it?
It is a question I don’t think I’ll ever be able to answer myself.
To me I’d just like strangers to stay that, strangers. And the stranger ones I meet like her the more I don’t want to go out there and meet people or go to events.
The question I guess being to all you out there is would you ever berate someone for something that pointless?
Is it just me or does everyone have a pretend OMG look they do when something stupid happens?
Do you have any instances of strangers suddenly piping up with complaints about you out of the blue?
Or have you decided to right the wrongs of people out there and call strangers out on face pulling etc?