Week 4 Question : Is Trust More Important Then Love?

For some there can be no love without trust, for others trust just doesn’t matter. I really don’t know what I think.

I guess its a personal thing.

People I know have stayed in relationships because they are in love but not because they trust them. It sounds silly to say you can’t trust someone you love but love is a strong emotion and some people either crave to be loved so will over look a lack of trust or else are addicted to the feeling so don’t care.

Then again love is so strange that its hard to even explain what love is. Its a feeling that everyone describes in different ways. No one can really tell you what love is and whilst you can fall in love with one person and think that nothing will ever compare you’ll fall just in love with someone else if that doesn’t work out and then believe nothing will compare to that either.

Then again trust is also a difficult thing to explain.

Of course you can trust someone in many different ways. You can trust them with your life. You can trust them not to hurt you. You can trust them not to lie to you. You don’t necessarily have to trust them to do all three. You can trust someone with your life but know perfectly fine that they’ll lie to you to stop you being hurt. You could think they’d run off and leave you to die in a dangerous situation but trust them never to lie to you even if it hurts you.

I’m a firm believer that you can fall in love with someone you know very little about but I also am a firm believer that most people are decent enough that you can trust them on a base level. I trust most people I know to help me if I get hurt, I trust that they would be honest to me or that they wouldn’t go out of their way to hurt me.

I guess where I believe that trust is more important then love is when the person constantly breaks the trust. It depends on what kind of love we’re talking about as well. If its family you tend to just get on with it until there is no love. When it comes to romantic love if someone cheats on you, lies to you, steals from you then there comes a time when love or no love you can’t live your life either thinking you’ll just deal with being a victim or else worried that it’ll happen again.

So maybe it just depends on the situation and the balance?

Then again as someone with paranoid anxiety its hard to trust people anyway in the long run and 90% of the time I don’t even trust myself so maybe its just the wrong question for me to answer?

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